Comments on: Nigh Ten Years

By: Gooseberried

Gooseberried — Wed, 04 Nov 2009 08:23:37 +0000

What a great story. I can’t believe she did that. That must have been so hard for her given the situation. I’ve often thought about emailing or now facebook people I’ve wronged in the past. But then I hold back because when if they go off on you and don’t accept your apology? It’s a terrifying idea.

By: nicopolitan

nicopolitan — Thu, 29 Oct 2009 23:50:49 +0000

I invoke the great Vonnegut: “So it goes.” A lot of us do have this thought you’ve got here in the post but so rarely can state it this concisely.

Great choice of video, too, btw.

By: Antagonist

Antagonist — Thu, 29 Oct 2009 12:03:34 +0000

I’ve thought so many times about that letter. What I would say. It wouldn’t be to my first – sure, we did each other a lot of wrong, but there was so much love there, and I know neither of us doubt that, even today. There have been several folk I should maybe apologize to, and certainly a few I owe explanations. But only one name stands out to me.

Even though the wounds have scabbed over, I still can’t seem to scratch them off, leave skin new. There’s still something I need. To write him, talk to him, see him – and maybe none of those things would help, and would only hurt us both. Fear stays my hand. And pride.

Maybe I have some years to go. I am on my path away from him, and that’s fine, but I’m less sure about the good of it than you are. Maybe that, too, will come.

By: Sebastian

Sebastian — Thu, 29 Oct 2009 04:07:34 +0000

Dang, you roused a few tears, Eric…

I think I was fine, until I read that first paragraph, went back and clicked play…

I’ve written about my Big Love. Seven years of chasing. Only one year of actual togetherness. And then she broke my heart again. Ugh.

It is life, yeah.

By: courtney

courtney — Thu, 29 Oct 2009 01:01:46 +0000

I got that exact letter a few weeks ago. It was funny, a little, though, because for a great while, even after we’d broken up, we ran in the same circles and had many of the same friends. I’m sure he’s apologized before. It’s different seeing it in writing though, maybe. Especially in that handwriting that used to hide between creased pages of notebook paper, stuffed into my locker between classes, waiting to make me laugh and make me fall a little harder. God, I was so in love.

Yeah. It was almost ten years ago. Weird.

By: Kristan

Kristan — Wed, 28 Oct 2009 21:17:25 +0000

{nods}

Sometimes I wish I would get that letter (or email, whatever) from my first boyfriend. But then I realize that the person I am now doesn’t need it; it’s the person I was before that did.

I don’t know why but I love this post.